Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the 5 love languages, has written about how people feel loved. As February is the month of “Love.” What does love look like to everyone? To some it is a kiss. To others it is receiving a gift. For others it is sweet words. To some it is fresh brewed coffee made in the morning. To others it is one on one time.

The previous examples according to Dr. Chapman are love languages. Dr. Chapman named the 5 love languages: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.

Love languages can be used in all relationships even the relationship with yourself. The relationship with one self’s is the first relationship, longest relationship, and most important relationship one will have as it sets the base for all your other relationships.

 Now you are probably wondering how I can show myself love with the 5 love languages. The truth is you probably do things already to show yourself love. Here are some examples:

Words of Affirmation:  Tell yourself “You are doing great!” “I love you.” “You look amazing.”

 Acts of Service: Have the coffee maker set for the morning, buy the items you prefer (when possible).

 Receiving Gifts: Plan for a monthly gift or have a monthly subscription (if possible.) Save for bigger gifts.

Quality Time: Spend time with yourself doing what you enjoy, take a nap, or watch a show you like.

Physical Touch:  Give yourself a massage, hug yourself, or sleep with a body pillow.

During the day of love, the month of love, remember every day is a day of love. Every day is a day to love yourself first, to love others, to receive love and to see love in everything and everyone.

Most importantly, to love yourself first is to know what is love.