Do you understand the difference between conflict and disagreement?
At the point when you can’t help contradicting somebody, you have a distinction of feeling since you and the other individual have various interests, qualities, needs and aims. Contradicting somebody is anything but an awful thing. It very well may be seen as positive and practical just as characteristic. Difference doesn’t need to prompt a tremendous battle. Struggle, then again, is an incredible impact or debate of requirements, qualities, interests and goals between two people or networks, gatherings, countries and associations.
Conflict varies from disagreement as a consequence of its result, which is normally negative. Now and again conflict can be helpful as opposed to damaging and can prompt deliberate contradiction, which brings about positive results and better dynamic. The manner in which the contention is overseen will decide the result.
As now the difference is clear, we can go further. Now let’s see what causes conflict and disagreements. Being a human being, having difference of opinion is natural.
The causes of disagreement:
The sources of information are often different. Your source of information can differ from other person’s. And often this creates different point of views. This is how a situation of disagreement can occur.
Meanings of words:
A word has several meanings. Sometimes your perception of a definition of a word can be completely opposite from other persons. For example, to some ‘art’ means something valuable but to some ‘art’ means something creative related to emotions. So difference in perceiving can cause disagreement.
The values always differ from person to person and situation to situation. For example, for some afterlife is more important. They think that this life is nothing. And for some, there is no existence of afterlife. It’s basically difference of values.
To get acceptance in a group one might say the things they like which they don’t and say the things they dislike which they actually like. For example, one might pretend that they read a lot of books to be seen as an intellectual but in reality they hate reading books. It creates a disagreement between the things you actually want and the things you pretend to want.
Being in an argument, when people fail to reasonate their argument with logics, they find themselves in a situation of disagreement. Some people might lack in reasoning skills to understand an argument and often fail to evaluate the argument.
There are various kinds of conflicts. But mainly there are two kinds of conflicts-
1. Internal conflict- opposing forces of desire or emotions within a person
2.External conflict- conflict between a character and outside force.
There are various categories of conflict-
1.Man vs nature
2.Man vs self
3.Man vs man
4.Man vs society
Here only man vs self is internal conflict and the rest is external conflict.
The causes of conflict-
The misinterpretation and misunderstanding of different things like nature, aim expectations, priorities can cause conflict.
The lack of communication among acquaintances can create gap which can lead to conflict.
Resources like money are often a root of conflict. Having money crunches keeps your mood very cranky and your patience level at that time stays on very low level.
Suppose you are already involved in a conflict and how you handle your conflict determines your further position and chances of conflict.
Perceptions about different things differ from person to person. One’s perception of war is different from other. And this may lead to minor to major conflict.
Uneven distribution of power put you in a situation of rage which can later on turn into a major conflict.
In your daily life it is very common to face these disagreements and conflicts in every kind of relationships; whether it is personal or professional; whether it is intimate or public. As a human being, there is no escape route from these. But you must come up with ways by which you will be able to cope up with these conflicts and disagreements. But often time it is hard to control or cope up. Sometimes you lose your patience very easily and sometimes you stand strong and do not give in to the situation. But sometimes situation gets worse without even realizing and put you in difficult situations. You need to learn to cope up with every situation and SeekingShalom will help you in this journey of yours.
Before the situation gets worse everyone should get immediate help. Depending on the severity of the condition people should find a way to deal with it. It is not too late yet. The psychotherapist would engage you in talk therapy and help you restore a sense of harmony and mental stability. And the address of getting help from any professional is Seeking Shalom. Seeking Shalom has trained and experienced therapists in the area of dealing with such conditions. Seeking Shalom works with children, adolescents and adults. It offers you two contexts to help you come out from the unstable and uncertain life and will help you to overcome. You can engage in weekly individual/family therapy or in a twelve week group setting where you get to interact with persons like yourself and together learn helpful strategies and techniques to deal with the problem. To pursue any of these options you can contact us via telephone at 212-655-9605. We would be happy to help you on this journey to healthier living.